Saturday, December 11, 2010

The Dating Cycle

I've seen this constantly.
Over and over.
Now this isn't always correct.
These steps can switch order, can be jumped, or not even particularly followed at all.
But in general, it's true.

With my last relationship: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21
With the guy I currenlty like: 1, 2, 3

1.Infatuation- realizing you like them. Usually you get extreme happiness over just seeing or talking to them.
2.Thinking-you begin to start thinking about them a lot. You think about their past relationships. And you begin to wonder if something could happen between the two of you.
3.Hinting- you start trying to hint to them your feelings. Often you try being around them more and joining in on what they're doing.
4.Sharing-your feelings with them.
5.Begin Dating-they share the same feelings
6.Getting to Know Them-you learn all their little quirks
7.Differences-you start realizing where you disagree
8.Evaulation-Deciding if you really want this person
9.Independence-leraning to be together, but independent at the same time
10.Commitment-strong bond is formed
11.Change-can be anything. Often it's things like boredom, fighting, they become distant, inconsiderate.
12.The Break up-one finally decides it's not worth it.
13.Shock-you can't believe that they have left you
14.Anger-How could they do this to you?
15.Bargaining-Try to reason to them (or sometimes yourself) what you could change to make things work.
16.Depression-You feel pain and worthlessness. It hurts seeing them around other people or hearing about their plans.
17.Persistance-you still like them even though you shouldn't
18.Reminders-small things remind you of your feelings towards them. Could also just be seeing them.
19.Acceptance- When you finally accept that they aren't going to be a part of your life anymore
20.Rehabilitation/Reconstruction-Begin to heal. Refocusing your life.
21.Understanding-You understand what they went through and you don't hold a grudge against them.

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